Understanding the Concerns of Family Members
Becoming a surrogate is an incredibly impactful and generous decision, and it is even better when you know that your entire family is on board. Making sure your relatives are comfortable can help pave the way for an amazing journey as you carry a child for a deserving family. After all, surrogacy has emotional, psychological and financial implications and it is natural for concerns to arise.
Having support and understanding from your family members can make your surrogacy process a smooth one, so take the time to ensure everyone knows what being a surrogate entails and be patient in addressing any concerns they may have. It's important to understand their worries so that you can work together to make your surrogacy experience a positive time for everyone involved, including yourself.
Give your family members plenty of opportunities to ask questions and answer any doubts they may have about your choice to become a surrogate. While becoming a surrogate is ultimately your personal decision, having understanding and compassion for the other people in your life will help ensure the journey is as special as it deserves to be.
What Can You Expect?
Surrogacy is a beautiful and selfless journey that family members might have questions and concerns about. In such cases, it is important to educate yourself on the different aspects of surrogacy so that you can accurately address the worries of your family. Do not hesitate to ask as many questions as necessary to become well informed, as this will assuage any worries your family may have when you are considering or pursuing being a surrogate.
You will most likely talk about:
Potential health risks
Reassure your family that you are aware of these aspects and will take all necessary precautions in order to ensure a safe and successful outcome. Carrying a child for another family is a wonderful journey, and if your family members voice any concerns, let them know that you have thoughtfully weighed every aspect of your decision.
Discussing Your Surrogacy Decision
Talking about why you are choosing to be a surrogate will help ease your relatives' concerns because they can understand that it is a selfless move on your part. Make sure that your family knows that you want to be a surrogate so you can help another loving family have the child they’ve been unable to have.
Helping your family members know your reasons can ensure they see surrogacy in a positive light, creating peace in knowing that you are entering into this journey safely, thoughtfully and out of kindness for everyone involved. You can also go over ways that they can provide emotional support to you and to one another during this process, including active listening and offering words of encouragement.
Explain the Process
In order to ensure that your loved ones are supporting and understanding of your decision, it is essential to address their concerns about the process. Provide information about eligibility requirements, legal contracts and what kind of relationship they can expect with the intended parents, so that everyone is informed and comfortable moving forward.
Sit down together as a family unit to discuss any lingering questions or worries they may have about what your surrogacy journey will be like — it's ok if there are some nerves involved — and let them know that although you will be taking on this amazing responsibility with another family, your commitment and connection to your own remains the same. Remember that communication around this process helps foster positive relationships between all parties involved.
Addressing Any Questions
Inviting your family members to express any specific questions they may have will help provide them the comfort of knowing you are prepared for sharing such an intimate experience. This doesn't mean your decision is up for debate; it simply means that having a conversation about fears and expectations with your closest supporters will ensure everyone involved is well-informed and happy with the end result.
Fortunately, there is a wealth of reliable resources available to not only help give you the background information you may need but also provide support for your family in the process. For instance, Vermont Surrogacy Network has experienced professionals who can provide guidance as needed.
You can also encourage your family members to research more on their own to learn about everything from day-to-day surrogacy preparation to post-delivery follow-up care. With access to these helpful tools, you should feel confident that both you and your family members are well equipped to handle the journey ahead.
How can you manage any conflicts that may arise when your family members voice their concerns? Deal compassionately with potential disagreements by acknowledging their negative emotions while staying positive in your responses. Put yourself in their shoes and do your best to answer their questions thoughtfully.
It is also important to ensure that you are responding with facts. Point out the safety measures taken during the process, costs involved, necessary legal documents, rewards for all parties involved, and other relevant information. If possible, connect with other surrogacy families so that you can hear about their experiences which may help alleviate some of your family's worries.
Ensuring a Smooth Conversation
When navigating difficult conversations about surrogacy, it's best to foster open dialogue and understand any worries that you or your family might have about this important journey. Your conversations should be held in a respectful manner, where everyone feels heard and their opinions are valued.
Everyone involved should feel comfortable discussing the risks and rewards pertaining to surrogacy so that the path ahead can be navigated with clarity and respect. Honoring each party's perspective will lead to more positive outcomes for the duration of the process.
Taking time to sit and chat with your family can help them feel involved in the process from the start, allowing for honest discussion about their worries or feelings. Ultimately, with an open mind and willingness to listen, everyone can gain a better understanding of surrogacy and the potential journey ahead.
Keep Your Family Updated
It is important to keep everyone updated throughout the pregnancy, letting them know what is happening and allowing them the time they need to get used to the idea of surrogacy. Doing so will ensure that everyone feels informed and involved, building healthy and supportive relationships for your surrogacy experience.
Keep family members updated with regular check-ins on how you are feeling and the progress of your pregnancy, support them by answering any questions they have and make sure all of their concerns are answered as best as possible. Although it won’t always be easy or seamless, embracing direct communication and transparency cannot only help to strengthen relationships with those who matter most to you — it could end up being one of the most vital steps in making sure this incredibly rewarding experience will be a success for everyone involved.
If possible, scheduling frequent visits with them throughout your pregnancy so they can witness your beautiful surrogate pregnancy can also make a world of difference. Making sure you give updates throughout your surrogacy will pay off in the long run, so your family can move past their concerns and you can focus on you and your intended parents during your experience together.
Thank Your Family
A nice way to address concerns is not only by talking to your family before and during the pregnancy, but thanking them for their support when appropriate. You can do this at any point, and it is a nice capstone to acknowledging their support after you give birth. Thanking them after the birth not only lets them know that you appreciate all that they did for you, but also that everything went well and both baby and surrogate are safe and sound.
Becoming a surrogate is a life-changing journey, and it's understandable that family members may have worries or questions. Addressing concerns before, during, and after your pregnancy can make all the difference.
Have Your Best Surrogacy Experience
By openly communicating about your surrogate journey, you can address any worries and build understanding with your loved ones, making the experience that much better for everyone involved. If you have any questions or would like more information on becoming a surrogate, please don't hesitate to reach out. We're here to help you and your family members!