Building A Lasting Relationship
A very common question asked about surrogacy is, do you keep in contact with the parents and baby after the delivery?
The honest answer is it depends on the relationship you build along the surrogacy journey.
I’m very pleased to say that I have a wonderful relationship with the couple I carried for. They are truly compassionate people and have helped keep our connection over the past 4 months since the delivery.
They have sent me videos and photos of the little one, we have called and texted each other very consistently. My family and I even went to visit them recently.
They are completely engaging with my children and family as well, and openly share their parenting experience with us. It was so nice to see them with their baby and see how well baby is growing! They are just a wonderful family and have become part of our extended family.
I could not be happier with our continued friendship and feel it is a product of open, honest and trusting communication throughout the matching and surrogacy journey.
As is true with all relationships, you get back what you put into it. If you hope to maintain a friendship with your intended parents or gestational surrogate, be upfront about your expectations throughout the process, be compassionate to each others experience, emotions and needs, be honest with them and yourself about the process and support each other.